Defining what love is more difficult than explaining inflation to anyone. different people have different opinions about love and its characteristics, but everyone doesn’t need to be right about their definition of love. there are a lot of emotions also situated with love like amusement, joy, excitement, pride, and most important pain.

The important question for this generation is how do you know if someone loves you and an even more important question is how do you know about yourself that you are in love with someone and it is not just some bare attraction. a very simple technique to know about love is comparing the person with your mother. love is selfless like your mother, she can wake up all night for you if you have a fever, she cares about you even a single detail, and even if she is not well she still takes care of you without any pride. now you all think that these all are very high standards for someone to pass. That’s why love is not for everyone. nowadays most of the relationship that they think are based on love is the result of attraction, socializing, intimacy, and fear of being alone.

There is a misconception among people that love only possesses happy emotions and that one can’t get sad or must not feel any pain in love. It is the responsibility of the other person not to let their partner go through these negative emotions, and if they are unable to do so that means they don’t love them enough. but in the more real sense, love does not care about the destination of the relationship or the fact that a person is happy or not, it is about the journey and efforts. even if it is not enough for you that doesn’t mean that the person upfront didn’t give whatever they had.

Relationships nowadays solely depend upon fulfilling the desires of your partner, and if you can’t do that you are not worthy of their love or whatever their definition of the word “love” is. the more you can provide the more you are worthy of love that is an equation for this generation about love. the efforts are almost worthless if you can’t fulfill the desired goal.

Another important thing about love is that it is not necessary that every story must have a beautiful ending, as I said earlier love is not about the destination it is about the journey. there is no ending of love if it is true. for the couples even not getting married or letting go of one another is not a sign of failed love. love never fails, the moment love happens it already won in that moment only.

The word that always suffers negligence in love is “unconditional”. it is hard for people to understand the true meaning of unconditional love. if there is love then it has to be unconditional otherwise it is not love there are some beautiful lines said by Bulleshah –

ज़हर वैख के पीता ते के पीता ? 

इश्क़ सोच के कीता ते के कीता? 

दिल दे के , दिल लेन दी आस रखी? 

प्यार इहो जिया कीता, ते के कीता 

Bulleh shah

There is no love without pain, one must learn the skill of letting go before entering this harsh environment of love. one-sided love is another terminology that is used for people who only possess their love for themselves and they never have the courtesy to unite. all they do is wonder about their imaginary world with the hope of being with her/him even knowing in reality that it is not possible. one-sided love is a sign of the highest level of self-pity that a person can suffer.

• दर्द में यूं ना हमें खुद से दफा कीजिए
• केसे कहूं बेवफा उसे
• इश्क के जाने के बाद
• तू एक ख्वाब सी है
• अकेले रहना बड़ी ज़िम्मेदारी है।